Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence and shaming of women as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes and speaks against these traditions that cause women to grow up with Shame, disrespect and violence. She is the founder of The Unshaming Project.
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Maggie Lawson
Maggie Lawson

I was interested but not surprised how language can change a sense of agency. Neuroscience has shown that trauma is held in the body by memory cells. This is a new concept of the body’s capabilities and the complexity of the neuro-biological relationship. The impact of trauma is probably easier to understand as hyper-response and hypo-response, (flight or flight response). Children exposed to early repeated trauma can adapt by being in both at once. This is crippling and the source of inner turmoil (mind) and outer (body as rigid or immobility) It is frightening and terrifying. The release of cortisol… Read more »