Ruby Usman

Ruby was born in the slums of Karachi, Pakistan. She has experienced sexual abuse at the hands of many men as a child; some of them strangers and others, close family members. She grew up as a Muslim woman and experienced violence and shaming of women as an integral part of society and culture. She now writes and speaks against these traditions that cause women to grow up with Shame, disrespect and violence. She is the founder of The Unshaming Project.
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Dr John A. King

You would find the results of a resent survey I did with abuse victims interesting. It was entitled Sex and the Sexual Abuse survivor. About 25% of people spoke of a desire for BDSM or control/controlling scenes as part of their sex life.

In recent research it has been found that BDSM is a useful tool for emotional and sexual healing.