He struggled to enjoy when I took him places and he was stunned when I told him that I loved him, and I understood that he did the best he could in raising us. I don’t think he knew how to respond.
“If you say the word ‘pig’, Allah will not accept your prayers for 40 days.” Sounds strange, right? In the slums of Karachi Pakistan, I grew up listening to phrases like these, presented to me as commandments of God. The Allah of Islam, portrayed through the Muslim scholars (imams) of my time, had a myriad […]
I experienced love, compassion and forgiveness from Muslims in a way that I had never experienced before. The word ‘Islam’ means peace, and this is what I saw in the wake of what could have created decades of inter-religious animosity.
I wonder where ‘Home’ is…
A lot of the time I feel like a fish out of water. I haven’t grown up with Western music, I still don’t understand Western humour, I don’t have much background knowledge of Western history or culture.
There was no space for saying “NO” in this oppressive world of mine. Saying “No” would mean that I knew what my worth was. But I grew up as a worthless woman. How could I ever say “No”?
Imagine the self-esteem of a woman, who is taught to be invisible. How can this be just about culture when the countries are built on this kind of Sharia Law?
In the wedding papers, there is a section that says: Does the woman have the right to divorce? and the Muslim Imams & Moulvis conveniently cross that section and mark it “Not Applicable”
#divorceisislam #humanrights #violenceagainstwomen #repressionisislam #divorce
What would you say if all of us survivors got together and wrote our stories and showed the world our deepest wounds and scars? #powerofwriting #creativewriting #intimatesharing #writingtoheal #eradicateviolence #eradicateabuse
We talk about freedom of speech; we say that humans are free to say anything but then we abuse children so that they become silent; we shame women so their voices are never heard and then, we expect women to speak up for their rights.
The gender-shaming we live with is so subtle, so ingrained in our psyche that we never feel “good enough” and when we face situations that we don’t want, we’d rather suffer and not say anything.